My grandfather, with whom I was once very close, passed away this week. He has most certainly expanded into a beautiful place, where he can breathe again, where he is not in pain, where he can hug and smile once more with the many other young soldiers he’d known who had fallen so many years ago. And I am sad…but that’s okay. There is a positive from this experience—aside from the opportunity to feel both love and sadness—that a truth has become very clear to me: The truth is that the most important things in this life, indeed the only things that matter in the end, are the people that love us and those whom we love. Everything else is a temporary distraction from this truth. Business, possessions, money, status, title—all of it is fleeting, coming and going, sometimes up and sometimes down. The one thing that can be constant, that has the ability to fulfill, that creates legacy and beauty is unconditional love.
This is often difficult to remember, what with all of the distractions before us each day. But if we just take a moment to dissolve our daily worries and halt our superficial focus, we might recognize this truth. That love, care, connection between us will be there when the money is good and when the bank account is empty, when the rest of the world admires us or when we feel rejected; those amazing individuals who accept us no matter what will still be there, not empty, not rejecting, but rather full of love, just for us.
Be sure to make a deposit into your emotional bank account this week. Show those you love how grateful you are that they are in your life. Feel gratitude and reciprocate their love. Put aside petty differences, pride and ego, and remember what is important in the end. Because when the day comes that your money is gone, that your body has met its final hour, and the flame of your mind begins to dwindle in the twilight, you’ll want to know that you lived fully—that you loved and felt and connected. You’ll want to know that you will live on in the hearts and minds of those who knew you best, of the ones who loved you no matter what. Like my grandfather. And then shall you know, as I now hope he did, that you lived a full life.
If the soul is the crux of the spiritual reality, the heart is that of the physical world. Use it often. Love deep, live true.